Love and life

Love is but a sandy foundation to build a life on. A life requires sediment; rock, trees, dirt and sweat.
It requires disagreements and fights, falling down and getting back up.
So many people have fallen so many times that getting back up just isn’t worth it. It’s how we deal with set backs, that teach others our strengths. Do you believe in yourself?
The only person that you can really disappoint is you! Don’t let others disappointment in you cloud your judgement. It’s not worth it!
Think! Live! Love!


You may be a bad mom if..

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You might be a bad mother if….. 1. Someone else picks your kids up from school and you don’t read the teachers notes. (I know you read them when you pick them up because they shove them up your nose … Continue reading

Pauline, southern Belle

My grandmother once referred to powdering her taint with a powder puff. I’ve always wanted a powder puff and I found out today what a taint is.
“T’aint your ass, and T’aint your twat but that area in between!”
Love my Mamaw Pauline!
She also had what she called a “whore” bath or a depression bath where you just washed the stinky parts! When you’re a mom, you’ll appreciate this!

Having been a child of the depression, raised by a blacksmith and inflicted with polio, and later becoming a WW II wife, my grandmother was indomitably strong. She always said what she thought with no filter at all. The people on the street in her small east Texas town simply called her Ms. Pauline. Back in the days of segregation and propriety, surely she was as misfit as her limp was to her beauty. She once told me that “Black people are as smart as white people, but they never had a chance.” And that, “All people like a little sex, even them fiddling with themselves or a tree. It feels good.”
(Pause, and breath)

The women in my family seem to all be indomitably strong but what else have we carried over from our southern roots? A deep drawl, an inability to keep our mouth shut, and a need to wear lipstick? No matter the occasion, we wear lipstick!
I remember walking into my parents house, home from my first visit from college, and my mother asking,
” You couldn’t put on a little lipstick for me?”
I was more than a little razzed, being a modern and upcoming professional at the brilliant age of 20. But as a southern belle and being a former pageant girl, I quickly coated my lips with the color of the early 90’s and everyone was happy!20130922-165821.jpg
My mother is the oldest of Pauline’s four daughters and my aunt, Kelly, is the youngest at just 7 years older than me. (My mom is far right with me, and Kelly is upper left with my little monster!) I thought Kelly was my sister until I was about 4, because my brother was actually 6 months older than her.
Ok.. Enough of the family tree..

**You know you’re Mormon if your mother and mother in law are both pregnant at your wedding, but you aren’t.**

My grandmother wasn’t Mormon, though she may have leaned towards it at the end, especially if she had lived past 63.
It’s just a joke! And not even a great one.
Had my grandmother been able bodied, I could have seen her as Rosy Riveter or any other pin up gal, but she had a heavy, but very proud limp from a foot atrophied by polio. She refused to use a cane but would hold your elbow stiffly, and she wore 3 inch wedge shoes all day while she was awake so she wouldn’t limp. I can’t imagine the hip or lower back pain she must have suffered her entire life!
She had two young daughters when my grandfather went to war, and I’ve heard stories of rations and letters and a broken man returned home. I later heard stories of a woman I never knew, of arguments and leaving, of leaving your kids in the car while you go into a bar. I think the war broke them both more than we ever will know. My grandmother outlived my grandfather by 6 years and I knew her the best then. Her wisdom about “boys” and her advise about sex, I find myself repeating but in a more modern, and professional manner to my own kids.
“The best form of birth control is an aspirin. Hold that thing between your knees, and don’t let it fall!”
(ME: But if you do drop it, use a condom!)
These stories keep us connected to the women in our life and our past, and will drive a husband crazy in about 2.4 seconds. We quip back and forth with one liners that “you had to be there” for and looks that mean only something we know!
These women are my friends, my relatives, my family, and my confidantes. We share love, loss, hope, prayers, curse words, recipes, work and history.

There’s nothing better than a family full of women!
Think! Live! Love!

Personal needs and insurance


Our basic needs are fairly simple, food, water, shelter, clothing. I’ve tried to explain this to my children and yet often in our society, wants and needs are easily confused. You don’t NEED a tv in your bedroom so you can watch whatever you want, you want that. As adults we do exactly the same thing. We don’t need a new car, or a larger house usually. I give that a pass because sometimes we do and we have to determine if the need is greater than the want. It’s a true balancing scale and many of us have jumped off and ran headlong into debt.

As above in Maslov’s hierarchy of needs, the bottom three determine if we ever reach the self actualization and self acceptance portion of life. I’m lucky in that I’ve never had to go hungry or live hard unless I chose to.
As we are thrust into a moment of economic despair and our basic needs are pulled out from under us we lose a sense of self, a sense of importance.
I feel this to be especially true in men and women that have in the past been the breadwinner of the family and find themselves suddenly unemployed.
No longer able to pick needs over wants, they spiral further into debt by a society that allows for over extending ourselves using credit cards and loans.

As an independent pharmacy owner for almost 19 years, I have a big issue with nationalizing a health care system. Many of you don’t remember, but when I started practicing pharmacy almost no one had pharmacy insurance. All drugs were affordable. We may have been lucky to have life insurance that we paid from home with coins in our purses or pockets. Prescription drugs were not advertised on television and your doctor, whom you could choose yourself, prescribed medications that he felt would best fit your condition. The office visit was affordable and medications could be purchased inexpensively from your local pharmacy. Enter big drug companies… Lobbying, using billions of dollars to extend patent rights and then buying up every insurance provider in the country. Yes, drug companies own pharmacy benefit managers (PBM’s) that own pharmacies. Maybe that’s a terrible run on sentence but its true. Who is your health care provider? Medco, owned by Merck pharmaceuticals? How about Caremark, that owns CVS pharmacies?
Do you think that perhaps we should consider exactly why the prescription that our own physician, after a physical exam, has prescribed needs to be changed based on what our insurance company will or will not cover?

I was recently required by my insurance company to use mail order pharmacy or receive no benefits. I own a pharmacy!
They also wanted me to discontinue a medication for my migraines that had taken years to find, after basically trying everything on the market. Of course I refused and changed insurance policy since I was the insured as as well as the one paying the bill. But who are we allowing to practice medicine in this country? Our insurance companies or the physicians that we have a personal and often long term relationship with?
It’s unfair and the only people benefiting are the drug companies and of course our dear government. When they found out that they would lose their private benefits on retirement and have to use Obamacare, they tried to reverse the decision that they had signed into action. It was too late!
Perhaps if drug companies and large insurance groups weren’t lining the pockets of our senators and congressmen, they would have read the fine print! Welcome to our world!
Think! Live! Love!

The dangers of dehydration

I had a very frightening experience with a friend in our deep Texas heat tonight!

Dehydration! It happens often and can cause death before you can even discern what is happening to you.
Over heated bodies turn into a destruction waiting to happen. Don’t ever allow body temperature to let you determine if someone is overheated. Body temperatures can be abnormally low even in heat stroke victims.

Look for symptoms such as heavy breathing, poor pallor (coloring), fainting and incoherence.

As your body overheats it depletes electrolytes such as sodium and potassium, both of which are required for muscle function, and your heart is a muscle. (One of which you actually need to survive!). As sodium and potassium leaves your body as sweat, you may or may not feel the effects until it is too late. If your heart doesn’t have the electrolytes to function, the only option that our miraculous body can make is to draw it from other sources. It may be our brain, our kidneys, or our liver, but severe effects can occur regardless.

I don’t generally recommend sports drinks to anyone that isn’t working out beyond their capacity, such as marathon trainers and professional athletes. But if you mow the lawn and work out in the heat of the day, or if you drink a lot of dehydrating alcohol or caffeine, or don’t drink a minimum of 2 liters of water a day, then you need to suck down some enhanced water.
I spent the last week on the beach and that’s a very good reason to use enhanced water or sports drinks to maintain hydration.

If none is available at that moment, mix water with lemon or lime juice AND any other juice you have available (pineapple, apple, orange or even tomato juice) and at least 1 tablespoon full of salt, sea salt preferably but it doesn’t matter.
Bananas are also quick sources to replenish dehydration, as well as greens, protein products such as beans or meat, and any fruit with high liquid content such as pineapple, kiwi, pears and apples.
You could ask me why we also use these same foods as diuretics and yet they can oppose dehydration. It’s all about the electricity of our heart. If you would like to understand more message me!

If you feel faint or numb, or just overly exhausted, do not attempt to drive and call either 911 or your physician, a friend (mmhmm), or family immediately.
It takes a child 9 minutes to die in a car during 90 degree temperatures. Heat can be a killer! Add that to our humidity in east Texas and it only becomes more dangerous!
Listen to your body! It tells you the truth!
Think! Live! Love